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12 Tips for Getting Organized for Adults with ADHD

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By  MARGARITA TARTAKOVSKY, M.S. Organizing is a challenge and a chore for most people. But when you have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder ( ADHD ), symptoms like distractibility, forgetfulness and difficulty concentrating can make getting organized seem impossible. But there are small steps you can take to organize your space and your life. Below, attention and ADHD coach Laura Rolands and clinical psychologist and ADHD expert Ari Tuckman share their strategies for getting a handle on clutter and creating a clean space. 1. Start small . When it comes to organizing, one of the mistakes people with ADHD make is to try to work on everything at once, said Rolands, who operates  LSR Coaching and Consulting . The second mistake, according to Tuckman, is letting your space become unbearably disorganized. So the disorganization becomes doubly overwhelming, and you give yourself more reasons to avoid it. “Pick one area to clean for today and make it an area that is not too lar
ADHD and Household Chores (ADHD and Marriage) " A common pattern is that the ADHD person agrees to do the chores, but then doesn't actually do them.  This can be a result of his/her poor organizational skills, his lack of interest in small things, distractions in general, resentment towards his partner for requesting assistance and other things.  These are issues that are directly related to his/her ADHD and it helps if both spouse recognize that this is the case.  However, while ADHD can explain why it is so difficult for the ADHD spouse to be involved around the house, ADHD should not be used as an excuse for the ADHD spouse not to be involved.  A person with ADHD can do their share, and should, but both spouses need to know that it takes extra effort for this person and both spouses must be willing to put the systems in place that help get things done.  In addition, both spouses need to make an effort to approach the household chores with patience and with a sens

Sharing Chores

Battle over housework breeds stress Health.com: 29 days to a healthier relationship Health.com: Secrets to a healthy (happy!) home Health.com: Stressed? 7 steps to instant calm Dividing childcare and housework duties with your partner Highlights Rethink your goals List your current tasks List your baby's needs Begin sharing immediately Shed traditional expectations Make room for two experts in your house Anticipate and communicate Make a schedule Consider hiring help Take advantage of timesaving technology Lower your standards Reward yourselves Remind yourself of the advantages of your dual involvement How to be a good House Husband 1 Figure out a daily routine. If you have children to tend to, include their activities in your routine. Determine when the ironing, vacuuming, waking the kids and walking the dog should occur during the day. Figure in drive-time to kids activities and wait time for school drop-off and pick-up.

Division of Labor

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Visit Marriage Missions International to read this helpful article: How to Create a Fair Division of Labor Step 1: Identify Your Household Responsibilities Step 2: Assume Responsibility for Items That You Would Enjoy Doing or Prefer To Do Yourself Step 3: Assign the Remaining Responsibilities to the One Wanting Them Done the Most Step 4: Meet the Needs of Domestic Support by Assuming Responsibilities. His Needs, Her Needs: Building an Affair-Proof Marriage -written by Dr Willard Harley They also have these articles: Please click onto this Marriage Missions web site link below to read: • WORK AROUND THE HOUSE: Who Does What ? “Working together as a team”—we know we’ve talked a lot about this on different levels in past marriage messages, but SURPRISE, we aren’t done! And we never will be, because we so deeply believe that married couples are supposed to work together as a team. We believe this is part of “Cleaving” together in marriage (biblically-speaking). To lear

First Things First Weekly Planner by Covey

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http://weekplan.net/ Stephen Covey, author of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, also wrote 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families.  He has a very impactful perspective on time management.  His idea is that we do things most of the time that are urgent and important - "putting out fires" - and never get to the most important longer term projects we want to accomplish, because at this moment they are not urgent . Covey Matrix So Covey is also a partner with the Franklin Planners company:   http://www.franklincovey.com/ With Weekly Planner at  http://weekplan.net/ , you can rate your to do list items by the Covey Matrix categories.  You also can break up your to do list items by the roles you play in your life. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People   by Stephen R. Covey   (Nov 9, 2004) The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families   by Stephen R. Covey and Sandra M. Covey   (Oct 1, 1997)